It’s worrying how often we forget about ourselves and what’s most important. We forget how it’s the simple things, deja vu’s, short glances, and serendipity that can be more powerful than the whole human idealistic world itself. Here’s how the story began:
Reconnect with a Friend
Yesterday I had the pleasure of meeting a friend I hadn’t seen in a number of years. It was great to spend time with him and ended up being a lot of fun. We originally reconnected on a social media site and shared messages until we found a mutually convenient time to meet in person. For a variety of reasons, it was a wonderful experience for us both.
If you’re feeling down and can use to have your spirits lifted, connect with someone from your past that you enjoy spending time with. Today, we’re fortunate to have so many ways to connect. We can reacquaint on one of the various social media platforms, talk on the telephone (not sure if my children’s generation actually still do this) use a service like Skype, or meet in person.
With regard to meeting with my friend, we arranged our schedules so we could be in the same town at the same time. This made it easy for us to meet at a local coffee shop where we shared stories and happy memories from when we worked together. We also caught each other up on all that had happened since we last saw each other, about our children, current careers, and a variety of other updates.
Reconnection Stops Feelings of Isolation
We also opened up about topics that aren’t always easy to discuss unless you already have a trusting relationship, the kind that often exists when good friends get together again. In our case, my friend had gone through some very difficult times over the past few years. Unfortunately, he was in an accident that left him with a significant injury, causing him not to be able to exercise the way that he would have liked. As a result of his inability to exercise, he gained a significant amount of weight, and he suffered a loss of confidence and self-esteem.
The good news is that we were able to talk about his experience openly, without him fearing judgment. I listened to what he had to say and together, we arrived at a number of options he could implement immediately to regain his healthy self-esteem and improve his overall level of health. These options included changes to the way he was eating, beginning a moderate level of exercise and thinking of himself in a more positive way. Together they would form a positive shift in the way he was feeling about himself.
Reconnection Feels Good
I felt good having an opportunity to share smiles and laughter with a friend that I care about and wanted to see healthy again, he felt good for the same reasons along with the fact that he now had a plan in place to regain his health and experience life in a more positive way.
Reach out to a friend you haven’t spoken with recently. It’ll do both of you a lot of good as you laugh and smile while remembering happy times from the past, as well as sharing new and interesting information that’s taken place during your time apart. Who knows, you may discover that one or both of you can really benefit from the encouragement and support that a true friend can offer.
It’s actually quite simple to be happy and feel better. Never give up things that draw an innocent smile to your face and bring peace and happiness to your heart. And always remember, when you feel like you’ve reached the end of your rope, tie a knot in it and hang on!
About the Author:
Steve Guarino is a certified integrative life coach, self-help author of Make Peace with Panic Naturally, and teacher of guided meditation. He is passionate about helping others find peace and happiness in spite of the life challenges they may be experiencing. Now that he is free from panic attacks, he enjoys spending time with family & friends, writing, traveling, and many other things that he struggled to do previously. Read more about Steve and his work here.